When I was growing up at a child my parents never spanked me. The only time we ever got spankings was on our birthday. My dad would scoop us up and tickle us, then we would give us birthday spankings. We carried this act through each family members birthday, including my Mom, Dad and Grandparents. This was a fun loving goofy gesture that became a humorous tradition in our family.
Being a social child I was always gong over to a friends house and what can I say at times I was a trouble maker. As we got scolded by my playmates mother my friend would get spanked, or her mother would say, You will get two spankings later". I was always so curious what was so terrifying about getting your butt smacked a few times, and why this was a punishment for some and not others. I felt lucky that my parents never spanked me, but never really understanding why.
As I talked to my parents about why the choose never to spank my sisters and I, the said they don't believe in using violence to getting someone to do something you want. That violence isn't they right way in getting your or showing a child that they are wrong. By hitting a child this is also showing that child that hitting is acceptable. Which we know its not so why do we do it?
There has been research that spanking can leave emotional scars on children and can affect them in the future. I can see that this is true but that is the same as saying that yelling at your children can leave emotional scars. Know that I have grown up and can make observations for myself I do think that spanking your child is wrong, and really is a part of an abusive act. Children are people too and you wouldn't hit your neighbor so why would you hit a child?
Looking back to the past there are some things people did back in the day that are considered illegal now. Times change and as life goes on change occurs. Spanking is one of those instances that needs to die down and should be considered child abuse.
Maddie Rzeppa
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